I used to say 'Yes" to everything. I was a people pleaser- whenever someone said they needed help with something I would hop to it. I was in a million activities as a student and still did a million things as an adult. I talk more about this in my live discussion here.
Self-Respect means having pride or confidence in oneself-behaving with honor and dignity. It also means that you believe you are good and worthy of being treated well. Around two years ago I promised myself that I deserve to be treated better and I started saying 'no' to things that were not part of my ultimate purpose in life.
I used to think that saying no was a weakness, but then I realized as I started saying it more and more, that it is not a weakness and in fact a strength to speak up and not to do things that don't serve your own happiness.
My tips for creating boundaries are:
1. Get some clarity around the vision for yourself
What is your purpose in life? Where do you see yourself 6 months, a year, 5 years from now? What are your dreams and how are you going to get there- what's the plan? If you are clear on this- it is very easy to say no to things that don't align with your true purpose.
2. Be self-aware
Know yourself, your past, and your behaviors. The more that you become aware of yourself, the more you can find ways to create the perfect boundaries for ultimate success.
3. Be direct and assertive
Speak up, say what you really mean, ask for what you want. No one knows how you are feeling and will not know unless you say something or go after what you want.
4. Start small
Start with 3 or 4 boundaries to begin with and then add more as you get comfortable. You are more likely to be successful enforcing a few to begin with and add more as you go!
5. Reach out for support
If you do not know where to start, reach out to a coach, friend, family, online community, professional etc.
Catch the live replay here and comment- I love to hear your feedback!
Bullying is a serious problem among school aged children, and with the dawn of social media, cyberbullying is on the rise. One of the reasons I started Empowered Girls Rise was to educate girls to form communities of purpose and to have positive women role models on the internet. I also wanted to give girls a safe space where they can share their feelings and not be judged. You can watch the discussion live here.
Bullying is defined as unwanted, aggressive behavior among school aged children that involves a real or percieved power imbalance. The behavior is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time.
Some bullying behaviors include, but are not limited to, making threats, spreading rumors, attacking someone physically or verbally, excluding on purpose etc.
In my live discussion, I shared a story of one of my students who was bullied relentlessly as a child by the whole class and a teacher. This is had long term effects on her because she is wary of teachers and her absence rate is high. For an adult to bully a child is unfathomable to me.
There are 3 types of bullying- but I added a 4th
1. Verbal- teasing, sexual comments
2. Social- damaging one's reputation or relationships, spreading rumors, embarrassing someone on purpose
3. Physical- hurting a person's body or possessions
4. Cyberbullying- a permanent public record of whatever is posted to damage a person's reputation or relationships.
I also shared in my live video the story of Megan Meier and how it became pivotal to how bullying is looked at online. My advice is if you would not say it to someone's face because it is not kind, then it should not be put online!
Feel free to check out the live discussion and comment below.
On a Monday, it is so difficult to be motivated when you could just put your covers back on, press snooze on your alarm and go to sleep. Today I want to share 5 tips to increase your motivation! I will say, however, nothing takes the place of a great plan- be sure to download our weekly planner here. You can also check out my tips on our Facebook page!
Without further ado, here are my top 5 tips to increase your motivation.
1. Don't press snooze on your alarm clock
I know this is something you want to do, but all it does is make you late and that can throw you off more! Just decide to not press snooze. Even if you start with one day a week- jump out of bed and do something- an exercise, blast some music, brush your teeth, meditate, journal or grab some coffee or tea.
2. Do something for yourself
As a mom, the times are few and far between that I do things for myself. However, there are some things that I love to do. I love to curl my hair, put on makeup, write, read, talk to friends, listen to music, and drink hot coffee in quiet (believe me, it's rare). It's those little moments I live for and they really give me motivation to get to that next moment.
3. Repeat a mantra
I cannot emphasize the power of words enough. I am such a believer in putting out positive energy into the universe and getting it back. My mom gave me a mug a while ago that says "Make Today Amazing", and that often is my mantra, however I do love 'I am awesome', 'I am a rockstar', and 'I am a force to be reckoned with' (ROAR!). Get yourself psyched up, yell it in the car or in front of a mirror, or in a parking lot- whatever makes you be the superstar you are!
4. Make a to-do list and check off the top 3 before 10 am
Yes, its really awesome that you made a to-do list, but now the whole day has gone by and you have not done one thing! We have all been there- and there is anything that motivates more than checking things off a to-do list- I don't know what it is. I love checking things off my list, it makes me feel accomplished and like I have had a productive day. What to do to really motivate yourself? A challenge- check off the first 3 before 10 am- GAME ON!
5. Make it a point to notice and say or do something nice to someone else
Nothing can give you a case of the 'warm fuzzies' more than doing or saying something nice to someone else. Give a compliment, make waking up early a chance to buy that awesome co-worker some coffee, call someone you miss, or have a conversation with someone whom you wouldn't normally have a conversation. Believe it or not, these small exchanges will increase motivation by adding positive energy to your day.
Hope you enjoyed this post- feel free to comment below- would love to hear some feedback!